Telling our children their emotions are gender based is harmful.

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One of the most vivid memories I have from childhood centers on emotions. My brother was angry often, and my mother always chalked it up to him simply being male. However, if I dared show anger about anything, I was told it wasn’t ladylike. Similarly, if he showed anything resembling weakness in her eyes, i.e. crying, he was told to stop acting like a girl and suck it up.

What it taught me was to choke down my anger, no matter how righteous. And him, to swallow his tears no matter the pain.

As parents, we often seek to mollify…


Psychological detoxing is not only freeing, it’s eye-opening.

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When life gets difficult, I’m the type of person who goes ghost. Not with those nearest to me, but my online presence all but disappears. I learned in the early days of social media, not everyone is there to lift you up so much as they’re waiting to watch you fall.

As a born storyteller, it’s built into my DNA to want to express myself. If I’m happy, I shout it from the rooftops. If I’m not, I’ll whisper it from the depths of depression. I’ve been ‘in my feelings’ since before Drake was in a wheelchair on Degrassi.

But…


Happiness doesn’t have to be attached to a white picket fence.

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The happily ever after (HEA) trope can often be seen as another tool of the patriarchy. Want to ensure your life will be filled with meaning, happiness, and hope, as a woman? Find the man of your dreams and watch the sparks fly. Hallmark movies are some of the worst culprits of this phenomenon, along with Disney movies. The fairy tale ending, girl meets boy, girl’s life is centered on catching said boy, getting married, having babies, and living happily ever after.

One of my favorite Disney movies turns this trope on its head. Frozen showed us that true love…


So why are there so many urban legends surrounding him?

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You may have read it on the internet or heard it from a friend: Before Fred Rogers became beloved TV legend Mister Rogers, he was a sniper in the Vietnam War. Then he took to the airwaves, adopting his signature sweater to cover his full-sleeve tattoos, using his platform to abuse children and flipping off television cameras along the way.

Everything in that paragraph is false. So why do these stories keep being repeated? The persistence of these stories, and their stark contrast from the truth, tells us a lot about urban legends and how they spread. …


An American Dies from COVID-19 every 30 seconds, isn’t this enough reason to mask up?

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They’re uncomfortable, make your face sweat, and can cause ‘maskne’. Face masks, the new bra. But as much of a pain as they are to wear regularly, imagine the pain you’d be in if you contracted COVID-19. I don’t know about you, but personally, I would rather deal with wearing a mask than struggling to breathe until I possibly die.

Think I’m being overdramatic?

As of a couple of days ago, an American dies every 30 seconds from COVID-19. It’s getting colder outside, so people are gathering indoors. Why? Because apparently, Americans in particular just can’t follow the rules. …


We’re all tired of looking at the same four walls, but that doesn’t excuse destructive behavior.

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Every time I think people can’t amaze me further with their stupidity, I’m sadly mistaken. Yes, stupidity. Or would you rather I say dangerous behavior? Either works.

As of today, in the United States alone, there have been 13.7m cases of the novel coronavirus, with almost 270k deaths.

What in those numbers gives you the idea that travel is a good idea? Now, it would be one thing if people were vacationing to parts unknown, not surrounding themselves with people. But that’s really not the case. People are still going to Disney. …


I’ve been fat my entire life, but I know how to remedy it.

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I wish I lost weight the way I lose things.

If this were true, I would be the size I’ve dreamed of since I left my teen years and started really putting on the pounds. I also wish I was as ‘fat’ now as I thought I was then. I weighed 155 pounds when I was 17 and thought I was the size of a house.

I’m only 5’5, so I wasn’t skinny by any means, but I was also not fat. I was healthy and curvy in a good way.

Now, I’m definitely fat and my health is not…


Music is the great connector for so many.

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My bonus daughter is nine and she’s learning to express herself through music more. Whereas in the past, she mostly listened to whatever was around her, lately, I’ve noticed her choosing her own way. Halsey is her favorite singer right now, and though I was a bit concerned to start with, the more I listen to her on my own, the more I understand.

Don’t get me wrong, I love Halsey. Her stories, the power she exudes through her voice, and her words is epic. She’s been through what a lot of us have and it glows through her music…


They aren’t missing the point, they just don’t care.

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I’ll admit, there was a time when I couldn’t see anything wrong with the statement, “All Lives Matter”. I didn’t think about it much, but on the surface, it appeared to make sense.

We need to normalize changing our minds when faced with fresh information. There’s nothing wrong with admitting you were wrong or misinformed. It doesn’t make you wishy-washy.

In fact, I posit it shows growth.

When you attempt to replace Black Lives Matter with All Lives Matter, you’re possibly missing the entire point. …


Giving ourselves a little grace in this difficult time is important.

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I saw this on social media a couple of days ago and it’s stayed with me. There’s no known author that I can find.

I heard that we are all in the same boat, but it’s not like that. We are in the same storm, but not in the same boat. Your ship could be shipwrecked, and mine might not be.

Or vice versa.

For some, quarantine is optimal. A moment of reflections, of re-connection, easy in flip-flops, with a cocktail or coffee. For others, this is a desperate financial and family crisis.

For some that live alone, they’re facing…

Chloe Cuthbert

I think, therefore, I write. ccuthbertauthor@gmail.com /Posts may contain affiliate links.

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