Are There Really More Jerks in The World?

Or are we just exposing ourselves more?

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Not a day goes by we don’t encounter someone being a jerk.

I use the term jerk to be more family friendly. I can think of various other words to replace jerk, as I’m sure you can, too. Insert whatever term comes to mind any time you see jerk in this piece.

I often wonder, have there always been so many jerk around, or have they multiplied recently?

In the age of the Internet, it seems a jerk spawns every two seconds. You can’t have an opinion about much of anything without a troll coming along and telling you’re wrong. Depending on the topic, they may threaten you with violence against your person, call you names, and more.

Of all the social media sites, I use Facebook least. When I use it, it’s mostly to browse the marketplace and yard sale type groups. Yesterday, I was searching one of the local buy/sell groups hoping someone had a cheap or free washer and dryer.

Apparently, I wasn’t alone.

A woman posted earlier in search of a free dryer. The post was already deleted by the time I was browsing, but she created a new post, wondering why people were being so mean. She asked if anyone had a free, working dryer. Instead of giving suggestions where she could find one or even offering one to her, people felt the need to tell her various ways she was wrong for asking.

Get a job. Stop being lazy. Are your other household appliances free? Does someone just give you diapers for your kid? You’re a piece of garbage.

What the everloving hell?

I see it all the time, sadly. People have nothing better to do with their time than to put others down who are in a bad spot and need help.

I don’t know this woman personally nor do I know her story. I don’t need to. I know my own. It would be a choice between purchasing a used washer and dryer or eating.

I know what I’m choosing.

Unless you’re independently wealthy, you’ve likely been in a position in your life where things were tough. Crap happens. Things break or just stop working. I don’t know many people who have a back-up washer and dryer in case of emergency.

Our situation sucks more, as we lost our washer, dryer, and refrigerator all in one blow. Living room furniture too, but that’s not something that’s a necessity.

The negativity on this woman’s post stopped me from creating my post. I don’t do well with confrontation.

Are there really more jerks in the world?

Probably not. I remember reading an article not too long ago that said there aren’t, we’re just exposing ourselves to more people today than we did 20 years ago.

If you think about it, it makes sense.

For some of us, before our feet hit the floor, we’ve opened our phones. We’re scrolling social media, news sites, texts, and emails. How many people have you potentially encountered before you get out of bed?

Now think back 20 years. How many people did you encounter before you got out of bed? Your partner? Maybe your children?

There’s a huge difference.

We have to re-frame our reference point. I would also posit, we should stop looking at our phones before we get out of bed, but that’s another article.

Those of us who create, who weave words and put them out into the world, we have the potential to encounter even more people than most. We have to protect ourselves from the negativity.

How we do that is up to us. We can choose to ignore comments completely, ignore only the negative ones, or we can turn them around and make something positive from them.

Me? I’ll just keep watching cat videos every once in awhile and giggle may way to positivity. They might not save the world, but they save my sanity.

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