As Carol mentioned, I’ve had other white people seem to think simply because I’m also white, it’s okay to make racist comments in my presence.
No, no it’s not.
It’s definitely fucking not okay at all.
Nor is it okay to make bigotted, transphobic, homophobic, or any other phobic or shitty comments in my presence.
I used to be the quiet unassuming one who hated conflict. In may ways, I still am. But it’s beyond ridiculous at this point and someone has to say something. So that someone gets to be me, in my world.
I’m glad you say ‘what?’, to your asshole friend. Keep asking why and what. That’s the only way something will change.