I have feelings about this. And I bet money I don’t have that they are tied to my own insecurities. The problem is, navigating them and learning to get past them.
My husband has a female friend he is extremely close to. Their relationship bothers me, mostly because it feels secretive. Her husband is an asshole, and she’s admitted numerous times she only stays with him because they have a child together and for the health insurance.
So yes, it does bother me, a lot, that she is so close to my husband and vice versa, but that their closeness is kept mostly secret from her own husband.
I don’t know all the details of her relationship, nor do I want to honestly. She and I are not friends. I tried, and she betrayed my trust almost immediately.
That’s another huge problem I have. If you could so easily betray my trust in something as small as repeating something said in confidence, then what are you doing or trying to do behind my back?
I know in the end I have to either trust my husband to do the right thing, or not. He’s been unfaithful before and admitted to it. He swears now that he is faithful and I have nothing to worry about.
It’s hard to believe. Not necessarily because of him, but my own insecure self.
Thank you for sharing this. I always appreciate your candor.