I’ll Never Fit Your Ridiculous Beauty Standards And I Don’t Want To

The older I get, the more comfort is important to me.

Chloe Cuthbert
4 min readMar 21, 2022


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There’s a certain expectation for women to be feminine, no matter what. It starts in childhood and continues and grows into adulthood.

A couple of years ago when my mother-in-law was staying in our home, we had a conversation. We were talking about one of her daughters and she made a comment that I just couldn’t get out of my mind.

“You know, a man is just going to be dirty sometimes. It’s just how they are. They work hard, get dirt under their nails, they sweat. But us ladies, we need to look our best all the time. I’ll never understand a woman leaving her house without her hair done, her make-up done, and smelling nice. It’s just not right.”

The daughter we were discussing does not bathe regularly. That’s a far cry from being picture perfect every time one leaves the house. Basic hygiene should be a requirement for anyone, regardless of gender.

But the expectation that I, a woman, should have every hair in place and put on war paint because I am exiting my domicile is ludicrous.

I know my mother-in-law isn’t the only woman, or person, who feels this way. My mother has mentioned more than once, she wishes I would do ‘something’ with myself. By something, I’m sure she means put on makeup and fix my hair. Probably wear something other than leggings, too.

Pardon me if I think I’m doing well having on clean, comfortable clothing, teeth and hair brushed, and matching shoes. My socks, will rarely ever match. Side note, that’s on purpose.

Like anyone else, I enjoy getting gussied up every now and then. Maybe once every few years. It’s rare I ever wear make-up. I have purchased some in the last year and learned a little bit about applying it. But on a regular basis, does Chapstick count? I think there’s a tube of lip gloss in…



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