Isn’t it though? I found the same thing. And I too realized that I tolerated the chaff simply to avoid being lonely. But oh the drama was so not worth simply not being alone. I find I enjoy the quiet much more.
It is nice to find like-minded people, even online. Honestly, that’s where I find most like-minded people. It seems we are spread far and wide. And I’m okay with that. I truly enjoy the connections I’ve made through medium and other places online and the friendships I’m building. I can have my peace and quiet at home, spend time with the extremely small circle of good people IRL when I need it, and foster the connections online daily.
It is truly a good life.