It is a horrible feeling, regardless.
I’ve had it happen with hetero relationships, which actually were the worst, due to why. I was being used because at the time, I was in good financial shape and not so good mental, so doormat.
The one that happened with a woman was a lot more heartbreaking in the end. It went on for 11 years, off and on, and she eventually ended up attempting to destroy my entire family because I refused to continue to enable her. She never had any true sexual interest in me, even though we “dated” for 3 of those years, she wanted a girlfriend on the outside, but more just an enabler and to be a pillow princess. I remained friends with her, even helped raise her children.
I’ve paid heavy prices for being a good person.
Thank you for sharing, James Finn