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One is Not The Loneliest Number, Being Lonely When You’re Not Alone is Worse
Knowing when to reach out is important for our mental health.
It’s often said, one is the loneliest number, but I dispute that argument. One of the worst feelings in the world is to feel lonely when you’re not alone. When you’re surrounded by people and you still feel as if you’re doing things all on your own.
Some days, that’s what mental illness feels like.
Other days, it feels like being alone would be wonderful. The peace, tranquility, and quiet you could experience would be heaven. No noise, no feedback, nothing holding you back from finally being able to release the tension in your muscles. Nothing stopping you from letting go of the ever present need to be ready to run.
But you know better. If you’re actually alone, then your anxiety will convince you to be terrified.
Find some balance, one that works specifically for you. The kind where the dishes get done before they smell up the kitchen, where you shower fairly regularly, and your work doesn’t pile up ridiculously.
Also, the kind where you give yourself grace if those things happen sometimes because you needed to feed yourself and that’s all the energy you had.
