Sweet Dreams Are Made of This

Sometimes, all we need to do is believe in our dreams to reach our goals.

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When it comes to dreams, I’ve had my fair share. As I’ve grown and matured, I like to think my dreams have as well. In reality, more often than not, I’ve let go of them because they just didn’t seem workable.

I’ve always had this misconception about when certain things should happen. According to society, I screwed up at an early age.

As women, we’re expected to do things a certain way. Enter a relationship, get married, have babies, take care of our families.

Yeah, I ignored that memo.

Although I had my first child at a young age, there’s nothing about it I regret. Yes, it was difficult, but I made it work.

Mostly, without help.

We all move at our own pace. Sometimes, all we need to do is believe in our dreams. When we finally reach our goals, we’ll know it was worth what it took to get there. Because the view will be even better than you imagined.

The problem is, we’re so conditioned to listen to what we’ve been told, often, we abandon our dreams before we have a chance to realize them. When we don’t do things in the order society says we should or when we chose to skip certain steps, we begin to feel shame about it, so we quit.

We stop believing in ourselves and that’s the biggest dream killer of all.

The older I get, the less I care about when I should do something or even if I should be doing it. I’ve recently started going to the gym. For most people, this isn’t a big deal. Taking a walk regularly or even exercising isn’t a major deal. But it is for me for many reasons. I was raised by a mother who shamed me about my weight and about food from a very young age.

So, I’ve always had a screwed up relationship with exercise and food. It began with stress/emotional eating which caused a lot of weight gain. As I’ve gotten older, I’ve worked hard to improve my relationship with food and for the most part, I’ve been successful. I don’t just eat to fuel my body, I do it because I truly enjoy food. And I’m lucky that I enjoy healthy food. I don’t feel I’m limiting myself by eating vegetables, I actually…