Thank you for sharing this! It takes us each however long it takes. Everyone is on a different schedule, so to speak. And definitely, and I speak from experience here, because we have been sexually active for awhile, doesn’t mean we’ve learned to speak up.
It took a lot longer than it probably should for me to learn to say what I wanted. Honestly, for me to learn that it was OKAY for me to say what I wanted. But now that I have, it’s game on.