The Struggle is Real, But it Doesn’t Have to Be

Some of us here are freelancers, others, new entrepreneurs. What we all seem to have in common is the fact that we’re likely doing this alone. Or so we think.

Medium has provided a platform where people can share their thoughts, hopes, dreams, and even their pasts. It allows like-minded individuals to come together and support each other, even if that support is simply by acknowledging the other person’s spirit, words, or deeds.

In my experience, as a freelance writer and author, in the real world I am mostly alone. Sure, some of my family supports my endeavors, but they don’t exactly understand them. My husband isn’t big on reading at all, he’s dyslexic so that makes it a huge challenge for him. He becomes frustrated and just doesn’t want to do it. I respect that, just as he respects that I constantly have a book or Kindle in my hand.

But it becomes a bit lonely out here in the real world when there isn’t someone who shares your passion and love for what you’re creating. And that’s where community comes in. I have met countless people who are working towards the same goal as myself, people who are a lot smarter than I am, people who make me think.

I have also met critics, something we’ll all run into at some point in time. Because as the old adage goes, you can’t please everyone. It wouldn’t matter if I wrote about nothing but sunshine and rainbows, it would piss someone off. The fact that approximately half of my writing of late is about sex and sexuality makes it even more likely that I’ll run into criticism. Since I feel this is something important, I’ll gladly deal with the critics.

Critics aren’t your worst enemy, believe me. Reserve that title for yourself. You’ll always be your worst critic, more than likely a shit-ton of times before you click “publish”, and even more after. However, a thinking critic can help you see something that you may have overlooked, or even cause you to think outside your own little box. Constructive criticism is always welcome, just don’t forget the constructive part!

Don’t worry about the ones who are just there to flame, they get off on starting arguments and are best ignored. I learned that the hard way.

You can’t teach someone who thinks they are always right.

We all have different goals when it comes to our work, and that’s okay. One of mine is to help others with my writing. But also, to be here to answer questions. To know that no matter where you are in this wide world, you aren’t alone.

There are others like you.

And we can be here for one another fairly easily. We know how it works.

Because if all we’re doing is putting out content, day after day, and never engaging with others, we are just extending the struggle. We aren’t doing what we can, in order to make ourselves and others know, we are a community.

For some, it’s easier to connect than others. And that’s fantastic. Others are more introverted, and it’s easier for them to just write. We have to do what works for us.

If we work together, we’ll find the balance and just maybe, make the struggle a little less.

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